“Perhaps God puts in our most intimate relationship to show us what he wishes to extract from us – the ugliness we wish to conceal. To put it more plainly: God uses marriage to make us more holy than he does to make us happy. That’s not to say that the two are mutually exclusive, that you can’t be holy and be happy, I was just trying to say that there should be a priority in how we choose our spouse.
Will this person draw me closer to God by speaking truth-in-love to me or will they merely deny my inefficiencies? Will they give me grace when I need it? Is this relationship built on a spiritual foundation or on looks and lust?
Someone very wise once told me that there are a million dream girls out there but not a million right girls. I’ve definitely found the right girl for me. I can list all the beautiful physical qualities about her, you know, the stuff that guys are usually drawn to first, but I’m growing more in love with the person that reads her bible next to me in the morning and prays through the alphabet with me. I know love isn’t just about spiritual disciplines, but it also isn’t about what you think you can get from that person. Maybe that’s what I was trying to say all along; let God bring someone to you, let him show you what love is, let him dream of someone for you. His dreams are a lot bigger than ours. Follow His dreams.”
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